I LAST between five and 30 seconds when I have sex.
I have suffered with premature ejaculation all my life.
I am 52 and my wife is 49. We have been married for 20 years. I can last if I pleasure myself but have no control during intercourse.
I always bring my wife to orgasm in other ways, then we have sex for as long as I can. She doesn’t seem to mind but I feel I am missing out.
I tried talking to her but I think once she has reached orgasm, she doesn’t care how long I last.
ADVICE: This is one of the most common worries men write to me about and it is also one of the easiest to put right.
Self-help sex therapy techniques are explained in my e-leaflet Want To Last Longer? but do explain to your wife you feel you are missing out.
Having sex a second time around could be far more satisfying for you both.